Sex & Alcohol

By Brian Lemay No comments

When I taught adolescent health classes I’d often use this analogy: Dish as the body and milk as the mind. Then I’d ask participants to squeeze drops of food coloring into the milk to represent the messages they’ve received about sex. After it was nice and full I’d explain that alcohol by its very nature effects how the brain works. and I would pour in the slightest amount of dish soap to represent this. Alcohol is a drug and this is its psychological effect. It’s something many people seek because it can make things so pretty and care free. It’s also why people fret about imbibing. Decision making with this mind is weak. Here’s the good, bad, and coyote ugly on sex and alcohol. Keeping in mind that everybody reacts uniquely to it based on the type of alcohol, quantity of it, genetics, body weight, body fat, water in the body, food in the body, hormones, age, medications, and overall health. The good: Alcohol, nicknamed “liquid courage”, is popular for its ability to lower inhibitions. It tends to make people feel less self-conscious so they’re more likely to say what they want sexually and try partners in sex acts that they wouldn’t otherwise. 10 points for sexual expression and another 10 for sexual exploration. Alcohol also has a warming and relaxing effect. That’s sensual, right? People, specifically bio-sex females, can feel more turned on after drinking alcohol. The increase in testosterone and estradiol in their bodies raises libido. Even though physiologically, their body is less receptive to sex. Drinking serves as a shared interest for many. A way to bond, like a sort of language. It’s a pick-up line. “Hey girl! What’s you drinking?” A display of generosity. “Can I buy you a drink?” Its become synonymous with getting laid. So, just going out for drinks can put people in a sexual state of mind. Bars and pubs are known places to cruise. They’re also acceptable places to make-out in public. And kissing a Long Island Tea mouth can be way nicer than a dry sober smooch. 5 points for alcohol. Yeah, lots of good points, alcohol. Let’s see if they outdo the bad. Alcohol is a depressant, meaning it reduces the amount and quality of messages in the central nervous system. Essentially, the more alcohol, the slower the body functions. That’s pulse, breathing, blood pressure, concentration, speech, sensation, and coordination. Almost all what sex is! Minus 10 points each. Maybe you’ve heard of whisky dick or brewer’s droop? Alcohol dilates blood vessels so that blood flows in and out rather than building up to create an erection. So alcohol makes it difficult to get an erection! If you can, then it may be difficult to orgasm because messages from the genitals to the brain to the genitals are sent inefficiently. It’s all slower. Harder to get up, harder to get off, minus 20. Then there’s dehydration. contributing to dry mucous membranes, namely the vagina and the anus. Alcohol plus sex can also mean injuries. Tearing, abrasions, bruises and bites because, again, the messages aren’t getting around well. The body isn’t realizing as quickly, if at all, that there’s damage being done. You remember alcohol brain doesn’t know if a condom is really necessary. Or how to put one on correctly. Isn’t even attuned to whether or not it breaks during sex. Minus 50 for sexually transmitted infections and unplanned pregnancies. Long term, alcohol can lead to male breast development, wasting of the testicles or ovaries, difficulty getting pregnant, chronic erectile difficulties, decreased libido, irregular periods, and a keg full of personal and relationship problems. Violence, lying, infidelity, heartbreak and separation, low self-esteem, guilt, depression, and addiction. Now, for the ugly. Beer goggles refers to alcohol induced visual impairment that leads to skewed sexual attraction. Can’t really tell what a person looks like, so even though they may not be attractive to you, you have sex with them anyway. Coyote ugly is the post sex, post alcohol feeling when you’d rather gnarl off your arm than wake up the person sleeping on it. The most troubling and ugly thing about sex and alcohol: Half of sexual assaults and 90% of acquaintance rapes involve alcohol consumption. If someone is under the influence, drunk, intoxicated, by law they’re not able to consent to sex. Don’t touch them in any sexual way. Wait. Reassess your sexual ambitions when everyone is sober. Some of you are thinking, “does that mean I can never drink and have sex?” Remember this list? I don’t know. Many people drink mildly and have sex or they’ll drink, sober up, and have sex. But my recommendation is to separate sex and alcohol all together. Stay curious. To support our sex education, you can go to (humming noises) I’m so obsessed with my vagina The text be on my left or left or no, left or right

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