Alcohol Addiction: My Alcohol Story

By Brian Lemay 18 comments


This is Alcohol Mastery, my name’s Kevin
O’Hara, and today I want to kick off a few articles and videos about alcohol addiction… So over the next week or two, I wanna do a
few articles about the different aspects of alcohol addiction.
Exactly what it is… What’s involved in it…
Who’s most susceptible… Who’s going to get addicted the quickest….
What is it exactly about alcohol? What are the benefits that keep drawing us
back in? The hooks that keep us hooked?
What’s the price that we pay for drinking? I’m not talking about the economic price,
but the price in terms of our relationships and our life in general… And how we can change our value judgements,
and how they can help us? And how we can turn our beliefs around?
Our beliefs can either help us or hinder us… So, what we can do about that…. First, I’d like to share a bit of my own
alcohol experience, my own alcohol journey… It all started when I was 13.
I had my first drink when I was 13. I drank at 13 because I wanted to become a
man. I looked at men, that’s what men did, therefore
that’s what I wanted to do… Then I became a man, I was 18, I was able
to go into pubs. And living in Ireland, that’s basically
all we had to do, that’s all we could do… Go into the pub after work…
Chill out… Relax…
That’s how we socialize… That’s how we met people…
That’s how we wound down… That’s how we had fun… Then I drank because I wanted to get away
from things… Get away from problems in my life…
Uncomfortable issues… If there was any issues in my relationships
I’d want to have a few drinks for that… Any problems in my work, yep, it’s easy,
go and have a few drinks after work… So any issues that were coming up, any problems,
that was what I was drinking for then. Then in the autumn of 2005, my drinking hit
a different level altogether… My wife died, and I was left alone to look
after my 13 year old son… My life was completely devastated, or so I
thought at the moment… And whenever I could get him down to bed early,
or get someone to look after him, that’s all I wanted to do drink, to hide the grief,
and unfortunately it just kept on from there… Then I drank because I thought I was neglecting
my son, because I thought I wasn’t being a good father to him…
And then I just drank… It was just any excuse to have a drink…
Right up until last year… Alcohol achieved the desired result…
When I was a kid, it made me feel like I was a man…
When I was a man, we socialized and that’s just the way we did things…
When I got bored and I drank for boredom, or drank to overcome my problems, I forgot
about my problems… I wasn’t bored any more…
It temporarily got me over the grief… And it sidestepped the issue of my self-esteem
over not being a good father… So, all along it’s always helped me, but
there’s a huge cost underneath it all… Because although you think it’s helping
you out; that it’s solving this little issue that you’re having in the moment, behind
the scenes, in real life… outside your pickled brain, life is going on.
And that’s where the real problems are all caused… I’ll go into that in more detail in another
video, but I just wanted to do this series on alcohol addiction because it’s understanding
your own addiction to alcohol and coming to your own realizations that is one of the key’s
that’s going to help you at the end of the day… So I hope you got something out of that.
Come back to YouTube and I’ll stick a couple of videos up…
And I’ll also put some posts on the website… I can’t do the videos for everything so
I’ll do a couple of posts as well… Thanks for visiting.
My name’s Kevin O’Hara, this is alcoholmastery.com, onwards and upwards!

18 Comments

MrDaddschal

Apr 4, 2013, 11:01 pm Reply

I think if you find you're an addict you were born that way … I was.

AlcoholMasteryTV

Apr 4, 2013, 11:28 am Reply

We're all addicted to something!

MrDaddschal

Apr 4, 2013, 6:15 pm Reply

It would appear I'm addicted to almost everything.

zzzshadowmaguszzz

Sep 9, 2013, 7:53 am Reply

I just found this video this evening, and wanted to thank you for being open and honest and sharing your story, knowledge, and wisdom.
I look forward to watching all of the other videos you've shared.
Thank you sir, you demonstrate great courage. I hope you maintain this strength and fortitude, and carry on with the courage you've demonstrated in this video.
I look forward to watching your other videos. 🙂

AlcoholMasteryTV

Sep 9, 2013, 12:59 pm Reply

I don't want to die from this stuff. I really saw myself heading that way, fat, not old enough, and falling apart from alcohol abuse. I'll never go back, it feels too fantastic to be free! All the best on your journey…

James Carmichael

Oct 10, 2013, 4:23 pm Reply

Thank you for sharing. We're all here because we have/had this demon in common. I'm trying to quit myself too.

ronatholl

Jan 1, 2014, 1:39 pm Reply

Sorry about your wife Kev the same thing happened to me my wife was 41 and i was left to bring up two girls , hence the drinking increased to mask the pain . but it does'nt really still trying to quit the booze

arbit3r

Feb 2, 2014, 6:11 pm Reply

My dad recently died from this disease, he had just turned 60. He had been struggling with alcohol addiction throughout his life but I knew little about it since I always lived with my mother, the subject was always too taboo to be discussed. He was a very smart professional man with several degrees and a good job, you would not tell looking at him that he had a drinking problem but these recent years he really started looking unwell, he looked yellow, very thin and had started calling me late in the evenings drunk rambling on about my mother or other trivial matters.  When I questioned him about his health he always changed the subject. He was recently found dead in his bed by my grandparents. I have spent the past few days trying to understand more about the disease and what my dad was going through these past 40 years, my mother always said it was his choice to drink the way he did but for a man so intelligent and that lost so much in his life I feel that it might not have been so easy.

I just wish these last few years I had taken the chance to know him better as an adult and question him about his issues, I guess I just felt that it would have hurt what little pride he had left.

Vanessa Beth

Feb 2, 2014, 5:57 pm Reply

This is a similar story to my mum, she started to drink when she was a young teen and then to unwind in the evening. It then got to an uncontrollable point where she would get very angry. She still struggles with it so now I am trying to understand her. What can a child do to her their parent?

RedRobb

Feb 2, 2014, 5:20 am Reply

Thanks for sharing your experience with drinking. Lisstening to you gives me hope that I can also stay off the alcohol. Both of my grandparents on both sides of my family had drinking issues as well as my mom and dad. No wonder I do as well you think. I am 48 and have been drinking for 30 years and in the last 5 years my binge drinking has gotten out of control. I am 3 weeks sober and the craving is getting less and less because I know how much I have to lose if I dont stop . Thanks again. Peace and encouragement to all who are struggling

Paul Mack

Dec 12, 2015, 10:22 am Reply

Kevin…you are a good man.I have a brother who has been drinking for years,keeps making promises to stop and when he doesn't,makes up all kinds of excuses.Maybe your videos will have some positive impact…thank you 🙂

John Proctor

Feb 2, 2016, 10:01 pm Reply

Thanks for your insight and advice. I am seeking help. Seeing you and you sharing your story. I am at a point in my life where it is time to stop. I am making that first step.

Panada Bear

Feb 2, 2016, 5:02 pm Reply

Kevin's the man. Thanks mate.

Lisa Rowe

Jun 6, 2016, 11:38 pm Reply

how come this channel has so few subscribers?

John Koster

Dec 12, 2016, 4:53 am Reply

Kevin, thank you for helping me understand that being honest with yourself is so.important with not drinking anymore!

Lorraine Baker

Sep 9, 2017, 10:46 am Reply

Just wondering if you have any credentials….just asking. I think your videos are very helpful whether or not you have a degree.

Angélique Nomade

May 5, 2018, 1:19 am Reply

Sorry I just could'nt listen to this till the end; because I was hearing noises in the background of this video; wich was quite annoying, forgive me for saying so…..and I just could'nt concentrate on what Keving was saying…..   Theese noises sounded like voices modified to electronics…..   Maybe I'll catch another video with your story; without any noises …. That would be nice……

Beth Sims

Jun 6, 2018, 3:47 am Reply

Can habit be in there as well? As a sad reason..

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