5 Types of Children from Toxic Families

By Brian Lemay 100 comments


Children who come from dysfunctional families learn to take on roles in order to cope with toxic behaviors in their household. Such upbringings effects their traits and habits they carry into adulthood. Those who come from a background of alcohol or drug abuse experience a turbulent childhood and end up playing certain roles to alleviate the sadness, humiliation, or anger they feel. Family dynamics that include other compulsive behavior, such as gambling or overeating, overly strict and religious attitudes, narcissism, and physical, emotional, or sexual abuse may also effect children to take on the same roles People may identify with more than just one role when they grow up in chaotic households. These are five types of children from toxic families. One. The Hero or Responsible Child. The Hero, or Responsible Child, is wise and mature beyond their years. They’re self-sufficient, perfectionist, overachieving, and seemingly composed. In reality, though, they suffer silently and carry the burden of sadness from their parents toxic behavior. They are afraid of becoming like their parents, so they learn to be the exact opposite. For example, if the hero has a narcissistic and abusive parent, they usually try to be the favorite child- relying on good performance in order to receive love. Two: The Scapegoat or Troublemaker The Scapegoat or Troublemaker is angry and defensive. At school, the scapegoat is typically the leader within their social group and often get in trouble, because that’s how they learn to get the most attention. But because they’ve built walls around themselves out of fear, their relationship with others may be superficial. Toxic parents are usually extremely ashamed of them, as they try to convey their situation by acting out family problems that are usually ignored at home, but beneath that hard exterior, they’re very emotionally sensitive. They’re either the loud rebellious type or the one easily picked on. And since they’ve been hurt by their abusive parent, they can be self-destructive. Three. The Lost Child or Dreamer The Lost Child, or Dreamer, is invisible within their family and tries to cope with the family’s struggles by disappearing and reading books, daydreaming, or watching movies. They rarely get in trouble because everyone sees them as a good kid. It’s assumed they also have a good, healthy life at home. The Lost Child is typically very shy and enjoys having a lot of space and solitude, causing others to view them as loners. Since they’re more withdrawn, they struggle to develop important social skills and relationships with others and often suffer from low self-esteem Four. The Mascot or Class Clown. The Mascot, or Class Clown, is usually known as the cute one. They’re always ready to lighten the mood with jokes or entertaining shows. Their dysfunctional family makes them feel powerless, so they try to cope by breaking the anger, tension, and conflict with fun and humor. Most Mascot children have a friendly disposition and are described as overly nice. Mascot children enjoy helping others because it distracts them from their own problems. Beneath their cheerful demeanor, however, they usually suffer from low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression, developing workaholic tendencies to make up for their insecurities. They also find it painful to ask for help when they’re hurt, so they put on a brave smile for the world. Five. The Enabler or Caretaker. The Enabler, or Caretaker, is typically married to an addict, but children can also take on this role. They listen to and console the addict while encouraging other families not to react negatively. Because the enabler doesn’t know how to cope with toxic behavior, they make excuses for the addicts alcohol or drug problems and deny such problems exist, masking the families downfalls to make sure the public sees them as a happy, well-rounded family. Do you identify with one or more of these 5 types? Is there any advice you’d like to provide to those who come from toxic families? Feel free to share your stories in the comments below. If you enjoyed this video, Don’t forget to check out our other social media and subscribe to our channel for more content. Also, if you’d like to support Psych2Go, we have a new Patreon account with rewards such as our sigh pendant, t-shirts magazines, and more. Your funding will help us continue producing quality videos and reach more people in need of help. And as always, thanks for watching

100 Comments

Psych2Go

May 5, 2018, 10:46 pm Reply

In a previous video, we covered the 7 Ways Alcoholic parents can have on their children, and many of you guys requested videos on the other types of parents. Such as those who gambles, have an addiction etc. We thought we cover it all under the umbrella: Toxic Families. Give it a watch and see if you could relate. Here's a link to our family playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vaElG9sHiKw&list=PLD4cyJhQaFwWgLiY5SJYS0f8wUNnI2SMo

Leanne Nunnemaker

Nov 11, 2019, 7:55 pm Reply

I sound a lot like the lost child and the hero

Roen Yuia

Nov 11, 2019, 12:46 pm Reply

I love the thumbnail. It's like showing that they're hurt and sick of it all, and tears is an involuntary response to that. But they are defiant and definitely going through the pain with determination

Félix Soucy

Nov 11, 2019, 9:34 pm Reply

Me, I’m as Hero, as Lost.

Magical Tododeku_Darry

Nov 11, 2019, 10:10 pm Reply

I think I’m a mix of hero/responsible child and the lost child(just… not invisible)

Kim Zastrow

Nov 11, 2019, 2:25 am Reply

What if you came from many families and had many parents

JJthedrawer

Nov 11, 2019, 3:11 am Reply

My family is quite complicated but here goes nothing…

as the video said the first one is the responsible,scrapegoat , dreamer , somewhat of a class clown (because i act like alot) and caretaker..

this is the part where it gets complicated

To my family im the good child but im invisible to them aswell and dont get enough attention so i act out at some moments but im a dreamer because i wish for a happy life style and read alot of books that fill my mind to keep me busy and as said im somewhat of a class clown because i crack a joke every now and then but it only makes other people happy but im mostly a caretaker because my mom works during the days bit get off late at night so i have to take care of my younger siblings…thats as much as i can say but its really difficult…

Faith Fernandez

Nov 11, 2019, 7:01 am Reply

“Scapegoat/troublemaker”
“Mascot/class clown”
That’s me but who the fuck cares 😅

Dunder Mifflin

Nov 11, 2019, 8:22 am Reply

I’m number one and three

Krazi Renee Soproxi

Nov 11, 2019, 5:36 pm Reply

Why is it that I identify with all of them to a degree?

Coral Day

Nov 11, 2019, 9:05 pm Reply

I’m 3

FireFoxGaming _

Nov 11, 2019, 1:20 am Reply

I have a loving family and I am careless about myself and help others first mainly because of my low self astem and I don’t want others to feel the same pain as I do. My parents argue with eatch other and sometimes at me or my siblings. They don’t realize what they are doing but then after words they say there sorry but it repeats. At school I normally get picked on because of how joyfull and soft hearted I am. There are also times where people make fun of my laugh but I laugh that off cause a laugh is a laugh.
I get yelled at even if I make a simple mistake and I don’t want to bring up homosexuality because it makes me uncomfortable for me to disguise my family about. Mainly because I am bisexual and I have a loving girlfriend now and even though she supports me my mom thinks I’m in a phase and my two dads think I’m living in a sin but they still love me no mater what.

Idk what type of toxic family this is but I just hope it a normal one, if so I’m relieved but as for those who do suffer from toxic families I will hope that things turn better for you.

Elliot Rodgers

Nov 11, 2019, 6:18 am Reply

What to do if you have most of em??

Don’t mind me. I’m just afraid of everything.

Nov 11, 2019, 1:13 pm Reply

Being from a toxic family, is it weird that I want to do the exact opposite of this?
Getting into the video: Okay, never mind, I’ve been called out.

DUMB WOLF YEET

Nov 11, 2019, 2:15 pm Reply

Oh man i dont know if i have toxic parents but 3 and 4 are like me in school and home

Khalil Tigner

Nov 11, 2019, 2:26 pm Reply

I’m 23 in a toxic family all of this is true how can I get away from all this negativity it’s driving me crazy

Skunko Hilarious

Nov 11, 2019, 4:42 pm Reply

The mascot, and the hero. I was shocked at how accurate this video is.

Jk Tolosa

Nov 11, 2019, 4:46 pm Reply

I'm a lost child, can someone tell the police

OkayAnauktra ·

Nov 11, 2019, 5:42 pm Reply

I'm the first one.

faith over fear

Nov 11, 2019, 5:47 pm Reply

I am the class clown, I adore humor! But I am just as optimistic for the most part, but I think that I bury my emotions, sometimes so deep I dont even remember that they are there. And when I do acknowledge them, they quickly bury themselves again. I identify as a realist optimist, seeing reality as a bad it is but seeking out the good hidden within.

Blaa Blaa

Nov 11, 2019, 7:58 pm Reply

First 4

Anita Harris

Nov 11, 2019, 9:01 pm Reply

I'm the lost child, dreamer, always loved reading and writing to escape into fantasy; shy, don't really know how to interact with others well. But I was also typecast into the scapegoat rule in my family even though I never did anything that bad; they were always disappointed in me and saying I was bad anyway.

But at first I saw myself in the first one- Hero/Responsible One, because I was always good academically and got good grades and awards and tried to make my parents happy by over achieving, being a teen missionary, being the first one in the whole family to go to college and later graduate school, etc. But nothing was ever good enough so there I was the scapegoat again, and none of it ever felt truly like me because all I ever wanted to do was write but there weren't enough external rewards/money in writing to make it feel like a worthy enough endeavor for me (until much later in my adult life when I no longer cared what anyone else thought, or tried not to, anyway).

I guess this video kind of made me question myself, like how could I be all 3 things, and maybe the problems are just with my own personality and would be there no matter what. I also wonder what a normal family even is and if everyone's family isn't toxic in some ways. Sometimes I make great strides in remembering that the way I was raised makes me feel worse about myself (I could definitely relate to the low self-esteem) and so I should leave it in my past and separate from it, whereas other times I doubt all I feel I've learned and start to blame myself or wonder if it was really so bad or if there's just something wrong with me.

My doubt comes from having 3 kids and not wanting to mess them up. I struggle to know what a normal family is and I see some of these personality traits in them (older one is sensitive and escapes into TV; middle one is definitely class clown/mascot type but I thought it was just his personality as a middle child, etc.) and I wonder if I'm accidentally messing them up and accidentally toxic. :-/

zozo

Nov 11, 2019, 9:02 pm Reply

I think I’m the Mascot/Class Clown

but if that one wasn’t an option I feel like I’d be a mix of all of these

xXbmac_and _gustoXx

Nov 11, 2019, 2:57 am Reply

My oldest brother is the "hero" in our family, my second oldest brother is the "dreamer"(kinda) and I'm the "mascot" because I suffer from anxiety alot

Jayah Anderson

Nov 11, 2019, 6:27 am Reply

This made me cry, I would be the mascot, trying to make everything better by jokes.

Joe Morado

Nov 11, 2019, 10:03 am Reply

im the class clown and the enabler

Christian Joseph

Nov 11, 2019, 12:42 pm Reply

Bro that fourth one hit me hard that’s literally exactly how I feel. I have really bad anxiety but I feel like I can’t say anything because everyone depends on me to be the optimistic funny friend and help with their problems

DiverseJoe

Nov 11, 2019, 1:11 am Reply

I'm number 1,3,and 4 , I'm glad I one of those kids who dosen't plan on continuing my mom's toxic cycle

yall kinda gay

Nov 11, 2019, 2:20 am Reply

im 4/5 whoooooooooooooops

Hunter Hayden

Nov 11, 2019, 10:23 am Reply

Not playing music out loud in your room in fear of causing a disturbance
Always on eggshells when mom was mad (always angry)
They DO NOT clean after themselves w house is dirty with garbage in every room
Screaming yelling nightly then asks why we retreat to our rooms promptly after dinner most nights
finally at 20 I just moved out
Trying to cope emotionally due to my brothers and sister being there. My sister who’s 12 is gonna get the brute end of all this. Many years of not cleaning and not doing house work. I sense they want a divorce but they are broke.

Big Rat

Nov 11, 2019, 1:10 pm Reply

I feel the rebel one,
I do stuff to get attention, I get in trouble almost everyday
But I don’t talk to my parents about it
I just do it
I don’t need them if they don’t need me
I’m alone
I don’t feel sad about it
Who cares really
Everything that has happened gives me nightmares
At this point I don’t want to talk to them
The sad part is
That soon
I’m moving
With them
Being all alone once more
To a place that speaks another language
Or is hundreds of miles away
I want knew friends
But also don’t know how to make them
I’m an introvert but like t be loud
Obviously once I move I won’t do that
But it’s the only way for me to make friends
I’ve gained popularity
But the thing is
I’m gay.
As in a lesbian
And my mom is homophobic
But only towards me
It’s messed up

L u n a r K i t t i e

Nov 11, 2019, 11:55 pm Reply

When you're a combination of three

carrot cake

Nov 11, 2019, 3:58 am Reply

Definitely the Mascot. No doubt, all of those things were highly accurate.

Luna F

Nov 11, 2019, 3:58 pm Reply

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Flare Phoenix

Nov 11, 2019, 10:29 am Reply

Well, I guess I'm the Hero/Responsible Type.

BeatboxKNIGHT244

Nov 11, 2019, 5:29 pm Reply

I'm 1 and 4

Sara Landis

Nov 11, 2019, 5:43 pm Reply

I'm a daydreamer/class clown/ caretaker when L lived with my biological family. I felt like I could have done so much more, but I was only 5-7 years old.

Sensual Ramen

Nov 11, 2019, 8:19 am Reply

I related mostly to the class clown one. Both my parents are so toxic I just have come to completely despise my parents. I can’t wait to get emancipated next year lmao

50% miss u 50% fuck u

Nov 11, 2019, 11:31 am Reply

I'm the mascot and daydreamer. I try to make others laugh and enjoy helping them to get rid of the problems I have with my parents. Humor is a way for me to forget all the things. I'm too proud to ask for help because for me it's like showing weakness. But I also love to be alone and have problems to stay in a relationship with others. When I'm at home I stay 90% of the time in my room reading, listening to music or watching Netflix.

Eliseo Garcia

Nov 11, 2019, 11:47 pm Reply

Sucho weak ass up bih

Broke Animations

Nov 11, 2019, 1:27 am Reply

So from that’s video I would say I’m a mix between the dreamer/lost child and the mascot child

Jacqueline Ladewig

Nov 11, 2019, 1:54 am Reply

I have 3

Leilah

Nov 11, 2019, 5:30 am Reply

I pretty much have all the traits the Scapegoat has.

Kira Finan

Nov 11, 2019, 5:33 am Reply

I'm a big fat three

Mane Playz

Nov 11, 2019, 10:54 am Reply

I experienced most of this.

Safiyaaa

Nov 11, 2019, 3:15 pm Reply

My family is confusing at times we love each other and barely any bad thing happens. But this is where my oaf dad comes in. He pays bills, mortgage usually is the one taking me places and blah blah blah. At times when I am annoyed he acts like I have no right to get annoyed and thinks that I am annoyed because of the good stuff I do which is totally wrong oml. Which leads to him being like "I do this I do that blah blah blah" and when I am annoyed he would be like " Why are you arguing?" "But I am not talking to you that way" WHICH HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING.

But that's not even it there are worse arguments there are times where he would go mental and insult me and then everything would go back to normal but it still bothers me because this is bullshite. A few days ago there was an argument my mum's phone kept on going off and my dad was basically saying what are those notifications and my mum said something and then my dad assumed it was because of my account for something.

So I grabbed my mum's phone to see if it was and my mum was all like give me back my phone but I sort of ignored her because she always says that and thinks I am doing bad which I am not and my dad is technically the one that told me to maybe check it which I did lmao. Then my dad grabbed my arm and not in a friendly way and I obviously said: "What is wrong with you?" Cause wth was that.

Then this whole mental argument broke out and long story short I went to my room and he just was insulting me calling me rubbish, bastard and I think idiot? He would not shut up which caused me to scream and go ballistic and tell him to piss off and f off and as I was screaming he would mock me which made it worse so whoopi and my mum always thinks it my fault and just only cares about how I talked to him and not how he talked to me and she is always like "respect your parents" yeah well how about respect your child ye oafs.

*Thanks for coming to my ted talk lads

NikotheNeko

Nov 11, 2019, 8:16 pm Reply

1, 3, 4.

Lauren Paz

Nov 11, 2019, 8:31 pm Reply

damn, I could ralate to number 1 on another level

kø løves sans

Nov 11, 2019, 9:32 pm Reply

The most toxic person in my family is my brother. He screams and curses when he plays fifa

shannon gilmore

Nov 11, 2019, 4:29 am Reply

I'm a mascot child

Pearl Playz

Nov 11, 2019, 2:25 am Reply

I'm thinking I might actually be the lost child.

Jessica Kenney

Nov 11, 2019, 4:10 am Reply

I’m a mix of all these

Cheese_itz

Nov 11, 2019, 6:11 am Reply

so is it abusive if your step dad put locks on everything including netflix,tv,house,windows etc. ? and would ground you for months after not doing anything?

Tech Info

Nov 11, 2019, 11:13 am Reply

how should family be like?

Husband:-The husband is the head of the family, he should lead his family to the light of eternal life. He should spend his time with his family and he should teach his family about God’s word. He should take all responsibility of his family he should be strong in God’s word.

Wife:- The wife should obey his husband and she should love her family and be dependent on God and if the husband do something wrong she should correct his and she should pray for his husband and for her family as well as the husband should honor his wife and he should not fight with her.

http://www.jesusshines.com/how-should-family-be-like/

Lucy the queen

Nov 11, 2019, 11:14 am Reply

Oh goshhhh i am a Mixture of three types : lost child, dreamer and mascot 🙁

Anyone else?

Well what do you want me to do?

Nov 11, 2019, 6:53 pm Reply

Listing my siblings types (please don’t judge)
Oldest Sis: Scapegoat. Even if a problem is to do with specifically someone else, my mother will always find a way to blame them for something
Brother: Spoilt/angry. It’s fairly obvious. My sexist mother turned a blind eye to things he did whereas if the rest of us did it…god knows what happens. Even as he’s older, he still comes to my parents whining for help.
My younger sis: The hero. Mothers pet and the one expected to bail everyone else out. However if they have a problem, expect everyone else to get the brunt of it.
Me: …

Giraffe Lover

Nov 11, 2019, 11:59 pm Reply

I identifie as 3 of these symptoms somehow

Jordi Contreras

Nov 11, 2019, 12:50 am Reply

I am sad because most of my family lives in a different country and it is hard for me to communicate with them.

Dan Ang

Nov 11, 2019, 12:38 pm Reply

Is there the child who believes that the parents' actions were right and in the end grew up to be like them?

Bluesommers Art

Nov 11, 2019, 2:21 am Reply

Oddly feel I was 1/2 rebellious trouble maker, 1/2 good kid dreamer. It fits me for sure.

Megan’s world

Nov 11, 2019, 6:41 am Reply

I’m every single one of them

bang chans pineapple juice

Nov 11, 2019, 4:57 pm Reply

the mascot/class clown one hit too hard. i’ve been noticing how i make jokes about the way my mum treats me and the way i feel with my friends even though i am really upset and empty most of the time.

Diana Kalashnikova

Nov 11, 2019, 7:18 am Reply

I'm defiantly lost/dreamy child

HiyaMikaela

Nov 11, 2019, 1:26 am Reply

I'm the lost child/dreamer, caretaker and responsible child (::::

Jessica Smith

Nov 11, 2019, 6:21 am Reply

I definitely got into a lot of trouble growing up. I remember the days when I used to disrupt class or just misbehave because of things going on at home. It was during the time when I started being molested by my older half sister. As I said in another video from this channel, she was my mom's eldest daughter. As I got older, I began to feel ashamed for getting into so much trouble. So, I would try to be good as much as I could but shame myself even if I got into a little bit of trouble (e.g. forgetting to do my homework the night before and missing recess). My mother was going through a turbulent marriage and there were lots of arguments and fist fights.

BAM BAM

Nov 11, 2019, 6:02 pm Reply

I'm mostly the lost child and largely the enabler as well, but I see all of them in me. For the longest I thought I was the scapegoat, but I think that role is commonly switched among me and my siblings. I honestly don't want to see most of my family ever again due to all of the abuse and flying monkeys…or whatever they are called :

Mellow Arts owo

Nov 11, 2019, 8:22 pm Reply

Guess who's a class clown

Allisha Green

Nov 11, 2019, 12:25 am Reply

Awe man I'm the class clown 😕

The Joker

Nov 11, 2019, 12:32 am Reply

1. Chris Chamber from the Body.

2. Nelson Muntz from the Simpsons.

3. Meg from Family Guy.

4. ?

5. Marge Simpson.

lyricallyspeaking100

Nov 11, 2019, 1:53 am Reply

Wow… Im the mascot/class clown😩

taro

Nov 11, 2019, 12:00 pm Reply

My mom is greedy for food and is always watching TV, complaining about what she doesn’t like, making excuses, not saying “that’s my fault” thing, lying, argument with my dad, screaming around and enjoying herself without noticing she doesn’t have any friends. If you doubt these facts, I’m pretty sure that your parents are not toxic.

B x L L A x

Nov 11, 2019, 4:22 pm Reply

My friend’s dad is addicted to alcohol and he’s very sad at almost all times. What do I do? 🙁 He doesn’t want any help from a therapist..

Shanika is Unpopular

Nov 11, 2019, 8:24 pm Reply

Just because you're from the ghetto doesn't mean you can't grow.

-Tupac Shakur

Richelle Miguel

Nov 11, 2019, 11:37 pm Reply

My mom yells at me a lot, like when I came home from school, she would complain in things and same as my dad, I want to move to a different country after University. Though I'm still 13 and I had to deal with this shit. I don't even have a phone and I only use my brother's phone, they get mad at me all the time and I'm just sick of it. When we have projects or homeworks they won't let me pull an all nighter, they won't let me do my homework at school and they would get mad if I didn't pass my homework in time or something.. I'm just sick of it. I've been dealing with this my whole life. People saw me as a loner, I'm good at hiding everything whenever i go to school, no one knows that I've been through some shits

aynnishe biellei

Nov 11, 2019, 3:05 am Reply

I am the mascot

Little Sade

Nov 11, 2019, 4:51 am Reply

My sister is the hero/responsible child. I'm the dreamer.

The Comics Club

Nov 11, 2019, 12:18 am Reply

im the lost child and cant do anything to change it since i live in the middle east and abusing ur children their is considred as good parenting and listening to them is considered dumb i just revaled to my mom why and how the school system was made to just make obident workers and she screamed at me calling me a retard and wierd and that i cant be a film maker because nobody cares about and she said all that aftet i told her i might have axitey

Leslie Burtis

Nov 11, 2019, 6:14 am Reply

Is it possible to be more than one of these?

Ya yeet

Nov 11, 2019, 7:58 am Reply

The no.4 was on par with me

Zainab Gazal

Nov 11, 2019, 1:00 pm Reply

I'm literally almost all of these…

Blazer Pw

Nov 11, 2019, 11:40 pm Reply

I cried cus 4 relates to me but I only cry when : someone tells at me, someone is mad at me, someone makes fun of me, and when I cry I break down and loose my cheer

Andella Heartz

Nov 11, 2019, 12:47 am Reply

Five fucking years until i sneak out of this disgusting hellhole and get a better life

Mystic Child

Nov 11, 2019, 1:43 am Reply

I come from a toxic family……

Gumbo Wumbo

Nov 11, 2019, 2:41 am Reply

Where are my number threes at 😔 😭

TheGreatMoonFrog

Nov 11, 2019, 4:20 am Reply

Can these types mix? I feel like I was a dreamer but I'd get in trouble a lot for defending myself so I was also kind of the scapegoat? I'd spend my days wandering through the woods in my own make believe land but at school I didn't fit in and when people tried to bully me I'd knock them on their butts and get in trouble…I'd also fight teachers if I felt they were attacking me like when one teacher tried confiscating my Pokémon cards because they weren't allowed at school. I thought it was a meaningless rule so I started yelling at the teacher and got suspended.

Darkminu0s Stupid utube

Nov 11, 2019, 6:22 am Reply

Im a scapegoat! ):

Keith holtz

Nov 11, 2019, 6:21 pm Reply

The Lost Child

Cybertoy

Nov 11, 2019, 1:09 am Reply

I have this one Internet friend who is having problems with her family they do not know about me or The others She told me multiple times that if her family found out about us they would kill her especially her father she told me she ran away multiple times I want to help her but I don’t know what to do

LiziLLusioN

Nov 11, 2019, 2:26 am Reply

I was mainly watching the video to see what applies to a friend of mine. Didn't expect to see something on the list I identified with.
I'm quite a bit of a lost child/dreamer; my parents, as loving as they are, don't love me quite right. They'll hug me, say they love me, say I'm beautiful, talented, all that shit, but all it does is create a super high bar for me to meet, and I've progressively lost motivation to meet that bar. And then…. Whenever I'm actually struggling emotionally, I may have been consoled as a toddler/little kid, but once I reached middle school, and especially now, as I'm going through college, they disregard it. They invalidate me and my feelings, saying things like, "well, you should manage your time better", "just get over it", never quite saying the right things. I'm basically invisible, especially while I'm there. We'll be eating dinner together, and all my parents talk about is work. If they ask me a question, it's usually about school. I'm never myself around my family either. Everything about my interests, my personality, I hold back with every fiber of my being because my parents have never really cared and never bothered to pretend to care. So as I develop my identity and grow as a person, my mom knows little about it, aside from me maybe acting slightly more mature. I think my mother has kind of realized her mistake, and is trying to do things and treat me differently, but a part of me thinks that's just because she's trying to treat me like an adult now.

Don't get me wrong. For the most part I have good parents. I feel lucky to have them, and I know they could have been a lot worse. Like, a LOT worse. There was one slightly toxic element, but that's just a side effect of them being hard workers (who don't get paid nearly enough). At the very least I know they love me, and even as I'm more aware of the mistakes they've made as parents, I haven't doubted their love for me.
Some people realize that the love isn't actually there at all, it's just fake. Some people think, "wow, not even my parents love me? That must mean there's something wrong with me". This is what makes me mad enough to break somebody's kneecaps. If a parent does that to their kid, they need a restraining order. They can't go near the kid because they've lost the privilege. And I don't give a fuck about "blood relations". If there isn't love, it's not a family, it's a prison. Let the kid be with their real family, or, well, help them find a real family. Nobody deserves shitty parents.

BeurreSalé_Ytb_Mapper

Nov 11, 2019, 2:03 pm Reply

Kid: is a caretaker
Parents: Its bEcAUsE Of thIs dAmn phOnE

Aletse Alba

Nov 11, 2019, 12:26 am Reply

I’m the mascot/ class clown. It sucks because everyone thinks you’re okay since you’re usually happy and joking around but deep down I feel so lost and lonely.

Everything Time

Nov 11, 2019, 5:01 am Reply

My mom emotionally and physically abused me. And she brushes it off because she did it to all of my older siblings, she also beat my little brother 10's of times till he stopped breathing because he didn't hug her. I've seen abuse since I was a baby. Now I am a 6th grader who over doses on pills and cries myself to sleep.

Zahra Ali

Nov 11, 2019, 7:12 am Reply

My brother is the troublemaker but my parents incourage him to do better and they dont get angry even if he got a d on his report because my parents know that he is trying

Katrina Blackwood

Nov 11, 2019, 8:41 pm Reply

Psych2go: 5 types of children
Me: all of them

N O

Nov 11, 2019, 1:02 am Reply

I live with my parents and they have been abusing me since I can remember, verbally, mentally and sometimes even physically. At first I was scared what would happen if I told anyone because I thought my parents were all "High and mighty" and I didn't want to upset them. I have also been very loyal since I was young and I had that parent-child bond with both of them. I soon learned that what they were doing was not normal and started telling my friends at school about it. At first it was hard, I would leave out bits and pieces so that it didn't seem to serious. They told me that that wasn't normal and that I could talk to them whenever, wherever. I was so relieved to not be carrying that weight on my shoulders anymore, but that didn't stop my parents. A few years later I came up with the solution to try and do everything perfectly so that I wouldn't upset my parents, so I did. And it was successful, but that haunting feeling of having the ones that abused me behind a wall tore me up inside, making me very anxious. I still encounter this today except I tell my friends about everything, I don't leave anything out and sometimes they even let me spend the night at their house just so I could feel safe. I am slowly dealing with everything but I feel that their is light at the end of my tunnel.

J. B.

Nov 11, 2019, 4:50 am Reply

I from a very messed up family, I'm an ex drug user and ex drop out, I am now in college, yes coming from my background has everyone saying I won't ever amount to anything, that I will end up like my abusive father, noooooopppppeeee!! I had to step away from my family and learned I can do anything and everything, and my background just made strong and resilient

U w U

Nov 11, 2019, 8:36 am Reply

I'm the hero and the lost child

Olivia Grey

Nov 11, 2019, 11:35 am Reply

I’m a mix between “lost child” and “class clown”..i hate my life

sanjana

Nov 11, 2019, 6:22 pm Reply

Responsible Caretaker Lost Child..

Kate Collins

Nov 11, 2019, 8:53 am Reply

Why use a cross ? I was brought up by a Catholic mother . Wonderful faith .

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